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Do you ever find yourself complaining to others, to the universe, or to God about the course of events in your life? If so do you ever ask yourself what purpose such complaining is supposed to fulfill for you?

Strange question isn’t it? That is because you probably never thought it even had a purpose until now did you? Rather it probably just feels like an automatic behavior that is out of your control.

Well if you think about it for a moment I think you’ll recognize that the underlying purpose might include some of the following:

1. To get sympathy for your situation so you’ll feel better.

2. To get right into justifying your victim hood so that you can solicit pity from yourself or others so that you can feel better.

3. To solicit some form of rescue or help from others so that you won’t have to address the situation yourself.

4. So that you can get yourself off the hook from being responsible and accountable for your current situation.

5. So that you won’t have to face your fears of making mistakes in attempting to fix whatever is not right in your life.

6. To portray yourself as a victim because victims get attention and respect here on planet earth from others.

Do I have to go on or are you becoming more conscious of what I’m talking about.

Does any of this feel good to you? If you feel how it feels to become aware of any of this I think you will see that none of it feels good.

You might be feeling embarrassed or ashamed.

Well what does that tell you? It tells you that holding onto such needs reduces both the quality of your life and your sense of personal integrity.

Is that what you want? I doubt it.

Such patterns of behavior have likely been so ingrained in your way of relating to the world that you may feel hard pressed to change any of them.

A place to begin is to recognize that no one other than yourself is responsible for your life situation.

Hard pill to swallow? Well what’s the alternative?

It’s to believe that you have little or no control over your life. Does that make you feel better?

If you notice how that feels I think you will start to find in those feelings the motivation you will need to shift your entire perspective on yourself.

This easier said than done however especially if you choose to go on entertaining the many lies about who you are not and what you are not capable of.

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For the first time in many years, Star Trek Fans will no longer be able to explore those new frontiers where no man has gone before. Thank heavens for reruns, videos and DVD’s! One reason for the success of this TV series is because the storyline appealed to the human desire to explore the unknown. Our curiosity of what’s around the corner to the next solar system and our capability to deal with unexpected challenges propel. inspire and motivate us forward even when circumstances may start us behind the starting line.

Now, imagine for a moment what’s around the corner for you? Where you wish to go with your life? Can you vividly describe what you look like, where you are, what you are doing and most importantly how are you feeling as you boldly go forth?

Now, the hard question is why aren’t you where you wish to be? If you truly desire to be somewhere else in your life, looking maybe a little differently, doing something that you always wanted to do and feeling like you haven’t felt like in years, then what’s holding you back from pushing forward to this new frontier? The answer is simply - You!

You are the greatest obstacle to going where no one else has gone before. Of course, you may not reach the far edges of the galaxy, but who says you can’t imagine them, draw them or even write them. And none of these actions can take place, unless you have an idea of what excites you - your passion - and why you are here on this earth at this time and place - your purpose.

Have you taken the time to explore your passions? What as some have said lights the “fire in your belly?”
Think back to when you were younger and what did you truly enjoy doing. Are you doing that now?

Much has been written about discovering your purpose. To me, purpose answers the simple question of “Why am I here?” To better understand my purpose, involves me identifying those gifts that I bring to the “table of life.” What is interesting to note, is that many times our gifts are also our core values.

To explore new frontiers, begins by exploring those frontiers within you. And as always, that choice is yours.

Leanne Hoagland-Smith, M.S. President of ADVANCED SYSTEMS, is the Process Specialist. With over 25 years of business and education experience, she builds peace and abundance by connecting the 3P’s of Passion, Purpose and Performance through process improvement. Her ROI driven process solutions affect sustainable change in 4 key areas: financials, leadership, relationships and growth & innovation with a variety of industries. She aligns the strategies, systems and people to develop loyal internal customers that lead to external customers. As co-author of M.A.G.I.C.A.L. Potential:Living an Amazing Life Beyond Purpose to Achievement due for June 2005 release, Leanne speaks nationally to a variety of audiences. Please call Leanne a call at 219.759.5601 or email leanne@processspecialist.com if you are seeking amazing results.

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“Move out of your comfort zone. You can only grow if you are willing to feel awkward and uncomfortable when you try something new.” Brian Tracy

Have you seen a successful person who is not a risk taker? I don’t think there is any because one of the attributes that got them to the top is their ability to take risks.

What separates achievers from ordinary folks is their willingness to take optional as well as necessary risks. For example, let’s assume I have a good job. I enjoy it and earn enough to get by. I’m not rich, but comfortable. Suddenly I receive a new job offer. The job comes with much more responsibilities and a significant increase in salary. What shall I do? If I join the new company, how do I know I will like my boss and co-workers? What if I can’t handle the responsibilities? What if I’m found incompetent and fired? What if after losing my new job, I can’t find another one? Should I risk my present security? Some people would say no. “No, it isn’t worth losing your security. If you take the new job, lose it, can’t find another one, and can’t pay your mortgage, you’ll lose your house. And then, your wife will probably divorce you.”

My own life is about taking risks. I started my career in the entertainment industry in Nigeria by gatecrashing into the launching of Tera Kota’s album where I met the who’s who in the entertainment industry when I was 17. Since then I have become a calculative gambler and a realistic risk taker. I have left many certainties for uncertainties and that has enabled me to grow very well. Life is all about taking risks; we should be willing to take risks every day. Whether you drive, take public transportation, or walk to work, you are risking getting into an accident. Every time you go to sleep, you risk not waking up! But you go ahead and do it anyway.

My role models are risk takers; they are common people doing uncommon and extraordinary things. They often sow the seeds of revolution - and not just once or twice but time after time. They dared to be different because they took the road less travelled. They are my inspiration and I get energy from them.

The reason why a lot of people refuse to take risk is that they do not want to move from their comfort zone. They love the security of their comfort zone.

People who think like that don’t understand what true security is. Security can never depend on outside circumstances. It only comes from within. If I stay with my present job, where’s the security? Can’t I lose it due to corporate downsizing? (That’s happened to me.) Even if I’m indispensable, what if the company I work for goes bankrupt? (That’s happened to me too.) On the other hand, if I were used to taking risks, I would have built an inner strength, become resilient and learnt the ability to cope in tough circumstances. Those who refuse to take risks to protect their security willingly live in cages, trapped by their own fears. If we desperately want to fly, we will be willing to give up being a caterpillar. Turtles can’t advance without sticking their necks out and we can’t either.

As we try new things, we become more confident and develop a better self-image. If that’s all there is to it - if a little step outside your comfort zone is all it takes to grow and improve- then why don’t more people do it? What makes that little step so difficult? The answer is simple; we don’t like pain.

The moment you leave your comfort zone, you experience pain and discomfort. Since all positive changes take place outside the comfort zone, change is painful. The very moment most people feel the pain; they pull back inside the comfort zone. The life in the comfort zone may become a life of regret. Perhaps, we may regret that we did not do the things we wanted to do. Regret is a killer.

The statement “no pain, no gain,” has been perverted, criticized and labelled as nonsense. The people doing the criticising are almost always “comfort zoners” who haven’t achieved much with their lives.

Brian Tracy says, “90% to 95% of people will withdraw to the comfort zone when what they try doesn’t work. Only that small percentage, 5 or 10 percent, will continually improve themselves; they will continually push themselves out into the zone of discomfort, and these are always the highest performers in every field.”

You have to risk failure and try new things. I have met so many people who were always taught to play it safe. And guess what? They are playing it safe, leading, as the quote says, “Lives of quiet desperation.” It is the people who risk failures and try new things that change the world and lead the lives they want to!

Dayo Olomu is a UK-based Motivational Speaker, Writer, Business/Life Coach, Trainer, Media Entrepreneur and Competent Toastmaster. His core belief is that we are all endowed with seeds of greatness, and his mission is to help individuals and organisations achieve their full potentials. He is the author of best selling “4 Indispensable Strategies for Success” and the President of Croydon Communicators Toastmasters. Get his FREE monthly Rise to the Top ezine by sending a blank email to subscribe@dayoolomu.com or visit his website at: www.dayoolomu.com